Updated: Mar 30, 2020
Have you ever heard the story about how it's not good to be the tall poppy in the field of poppies because the tall one is the one that gets cut down first? This seems to be a common trend among people as well. Have you ever met someone who tried to convince you to turn it down, don't do too much, don't do this, don't do that or maybe you should wait until......?
While most of the intention may come from a good place, also be aware that others will attempt to place their fears and insecurities on you as well. This is also an attempt to keep you playing small and rising up to your full potential. because when you rise up and start growing, it could make others around you self-aware that they are holding back from rising up to their potential as well and so it shines a light and act as a mirror on where they are in their life. This, in turn, makes them feel bad and insecure. But instead of them rising up themselves, they start to convince you to stay close to the ground with them. Hence cutting you down.
This can be in the form of sneak dissing, gossiping and spreading rumors in an attempt to dictate other people's opinions of you, downplaying your actions and efforts, intentionally making you feel small and unimportant, not showing or reciprocating the support or even reminding you of your past.
That's why its so important to surround yourself with people who allow you to shine and grow without feeling you're taking their light away. People who allow you to make mistakes, have opinions different from their own but still embrace you for who you are. It's important for you to surround yourself with people who not only support you but who stretch you and even call you out on your mistakes; all from a loving place of course. If the ones close to you don't provide that for you, its time to step out and meet new people.
If you're not careful or if you lack the courage and confidence all leaders, entrepreneurs, innovators, inventors, and trendsetters need to spark change, make a difference and shift the atmosphere, you'll be scared to stand out and step out of your comfort zone. You will start to diminish and mitigate your gifts, your talents, your contribution to the world and your community. You'll be afraid to show up for yourself and for the ones who really need you.
Trust that God created you to be a "tall poppy" you were meant to stand out and shine your light. While its important to have that confidence and drive to be the best you can be, its also important how you treat others. You can tell a lot about a person by how they make others feel. So while you're standing, make sure you're not standing on the necks of others and looking down on them. Keep a level of integrity and compassion. This is the true form of "shining your light" If you plant deep roots of honesty and fairness and have a strong foundation of integrity and faith, when folks attempt to cut you down because you standing tall makes them uncomfortable, you'll always be able to grow back. Come out of your soil you call your comfort zone, come out of your soil you call your insecurities and your fears. Come out because nothing great ever grows there!